When most people get married, they’re choosing the person they want to spend the rest of their life with. However, not all marriages work out, and divorce may be necessary for many couples. A divorce is a big decision, though, and sometimes you feel like you should put in more effort to keep your marriage together. If you’re uncertain of your decision, you should evaluate your marriage for these signs before contacting an Austin divorce lawyer:
You Feel Criticized and Put Down by Your Partner
In any relationship, both parties should build each other up while also helping each other recognize their flaws constructively. However, there’s a big difference between helping someone grow, and needless criticism. If you feel like everything you do is never “good enough” for your spouse, then it may be time to break away.
You Have Different Sexual Needs
Your relationship shouldn’t rely entirely on sex, but there’s no doubt that intercourse can be a way to build intimacy. If you can’t agree on your sex life or it’s become a power struggle or constant source of rejection, your marriage may be suffering as a result.
You’re Only Staying Together for the Kids
Yes, having supportive parents in their lives helps stimulate children’s development. However, forcing yourself to be in a relationship just so your kids have both parents in the same home is unhealthy, for you and for them. Children emulate their parents, and they may consider your relationship as something to emulate, even when it’s not. You and your spouse can arrange to both be a part of the children’s lives, even if you divorce.
You Find Yourself Being Defensive with Your Partner
There’s a strong chance your marriage vows included some equivalent of being there for each other “in good times and bad.” That means that you and your spouse should be able to be vulnerable with each other, without regretting sharing the less-than-good parts of yourself. If you can’t open up or don’t feel relieved when you discuss your feelings, your relationship may have lost the critical component of trust.
You Can’t Compromise
Couples will argue, and there’s nothing that can stop it. However, not being able to reach healthy resolutions to those fights is a problem. If you’re constantly having the same arguments without reaching a resolution and you don’t know how to give and take with each other, then there’s a problem. You’re treating your spouse like an enemy, rather than someone who’s on your side.
Counseling Doesn’t Help
Sometimes it can be difficult to solve problems between you and your spouse on your own. Counseling can provide a third party to listen to your issues, help guide you toward solutions, and evaluate your progress. However, counseling requires the willing effort of both parties to make any progress. If you’re trying to improve your marriage but your spouse isn’t, then you may be better off moving on.
Your Partner Is Abusive
No matter how close you are to someone, there’s never an excuse for abusive behavior. This can include both physical attacks and emotional manipulation. If your partner is abusive, it’s in your (and your children’s, if you have any) best interest to go through with a divorce so that you can stay safe.
Providing the Divorce Help You Need
If you recognize one or more of these signs in your marriage, then it may be time to move forward with a divorce. Whether you foresee a contested divorce or not, having a skilled family law attorney on your side can help you complete the process. If you are considering a divorce in Texas, contact Austin divorce attorney Abraham Kant Esquire to schedule your free initial consultation today.